Being Single Is Not As Bad As Previously Believed, A Recent Scientific Report Says
There have always been pressures left and right for young people to settle down, marry, have kids, go to work, come home, go on vacation once in a while, get old and then die. This is what life has been like, more or less, and this is how it should be for everyone else. Right?
Well, the trends are changing. Young people in the US are getting married at a much later age than their predecessors, with many of them tying the know when they’re in their 30s. This is 5 years later that it was in the 1980s. What’s more, there seem to be more and more single people than ever before. Is this normal or okay?
The reality of the matter is that very little research has been done into the matter. All research that has been done was of married people, while singles were taken as control groups. This is something that Bella DePaulo, a researcher at the University of California, Santa Barbara tells us.
“The preoccupation with the perils of loneliness can obscure the profound benefits of solitude,” said Bella DePaulo, PhD, a scientist at the University of California, Santa Barbara, who presented her findings at the American Psychological Association’s 124th Annual Convention. “It is time for a more accurate portrayal of single people and single life – one that recognizes the real strengths and resilience of people who are single, and what makes their lives so meaningful.”
But from what little she could gather, things aren’t as bad as they’re made out to be. For instance, one study tells us that single people value meaningful work more than those part of a couple. Another study shows that singles are more connected with friends and family. What’s more, single people were found to be more self-determined and in a 2009 study it was concluded that “loners” are more self-sufficient which helps a great deal with negative aspects of life. This means that that single people find solace within themselves and don’t need others so much during hard times. The exact opposite is true for married people, or for those part of a couple.
As of 2014, more than half of the country’s adult population, people over the age of 16, were unmarried. This is more than 37.4% which was reported in 1976. There is no good answer here, whether you should be married or not. Each one has its set of advantages and disadvantages. Some people are better off single, while others, married.
“More than ever before, Americans can pursue the ways of living that work best for them. There is no one blueprint for the good life,” she said. “What matters is not what everyone else is doing or what other people think we should be doing, but whether we can find the places, the spaces and the people that fit who we really are and allow us to live our best lives.”